Thursday, July 10, 2014

How to Deal With Depression and Anxiety During Blogher 2014


I am going to my 4th Blogger in two weeks. Even after 4 years, it is overwhelming. In situations where I know no one, I tend to revert to my introverted side and being around hundreds of women and some men that I have never met or read is wicked scary to me. 

I try to be "up" in new situations but being "up" is physically and mentally exhausting.  It takes a lot of internal guts for me to go up to someone that I do not know and say "Hello". All of the "Will they like me?" or "What if they hate my blog?" or "How the hell am I going to describe my blog" gets shoved down and the welcoming smiling friendly gregarious (I was called that recently) comes out.

Here is how I deal with it.

1. Coping mechanisms will be kept handy. I will have a book (maybe two or three) with me. If it gets to be too much, I will find a quiet corner and read for a bit. I used to retreat to the Serenity Suite but that is not an option.

2. Recite the mantra in my head.  "I am good enough" over and over until I start to believe it.

3.Don't be afraid to show your true feelings. I lost my phone at the San Diego Blogher. I was dealing with family issues and I totally broke down. I was crying. People stopped to help me. They even got AT&T to donate a phone until I could replace mine. They were awesome and they helped me. I eventually found my phone through Twitter. People will be there for you. 

As someone who has been really struggling lately. I am totally looking forward to the medication appointment I have next week. I am going to be true to myself. I am not perfect and I know I can handle it if I get anxious and depressed. 

I will be around just look for the tall freckled red head with a bit of a Boston accent. 

6 comments:

  1. These are great tips, Jen! I like to have a book with me, too, in times like that. I am very introverted and am not easily comfortable with crowds. But I would love to go a blogger convention someday. Maybe I will meet you! :-)

    Good luck with the doctor's appt.

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  2. I usually end up crying in my room at least twice during BlogHer... it can be so overwhelming.
    I'll always remember you as the first person I met at BlogHer' 11 and I can't wait to see you again :)

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  3. Thank you for sharing! I am attending for the first time and I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed already!

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  4. Thank you for sharing! I hit publish too soon!

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  5. Thank you for sharing. As much as I'm looking forward to it, I'm a little overwhelmed too. It's a lot to take in.

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  6. I'm so glad you came out! I also had a lot of anxiety about BlogHer, but so far everyone has been really great. I've spent a fair amount of time hiding out in my room, but so far, leaving my room has not resulted in catastrophe so I've got that going for me. I really enjoyed meeting you today!

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