Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Christmas Loneliness

I try to find a happy medium between busy and alone. I am either always busy or alone 72 hours straight.

Well, I try to keep busy now to avoid thinking about how lonely it is lately.

Really, with winter approaching and all the parties, events and just watching people walking down the street holding hands, it makes me realize how alone I am.

Mixing it in with missing Mom this Christmas, I am really feeling it.

I have friends, who I love and who make my life wonderful that they are in my life, but I am just missing some things.

I worry how I will be alone and get sick like my Mother, with no one to help me. Not that being romantically involved with someone guarantees they will be there for you but it is just a big worry of mine. Then there is the whole Christmas thing and that because I am single without kids, somehow I do not deserve time off at Christmas. It wraps things up that gives loneliness a nice bow.

I am just feeling pretty lonely and I thought writing about it would help.


  1. Hi Jen, we've come to see Christmas as a family, friends and sharing time. So singles, like us do start to think the things you've listed.
    Maybe change things around a little. Time off, you earned it like everyone else, so what would you like to do ??? No huge pile of washing up to do and no visits to and from people you never really see (or like that much, if I'm being honest).
    I tend to think too much about things that haven't happened and probably won't and it clouds everything else. So now I ask myself "what am I thinking" as often as possible. If it's not to do with what I'm supposed to be doing, then I refocus. If it is then it's a little pat on the back. It's early days but it's working so far.
    You know you, better than you know anyone else and you'd really miss yourself if you weren't around. You've got a few days off soon to spend time with your favorite person (you) plan something really nice for them (I mean you). as a thank you for getting to here and make some plans to have an even better time next year.
    Merry Christmas Jen from me, Spanner. One of your long list of cyber friends :-)

  2. Sorry you are feeling so down.

  3. I am sorry that you are feeling lonely Jen. I was feeling very lonely last Christmas. Whenever I feel down I am reminded of a quote: "What a wonderful thought it is that some of the best days in our life haven't happened yet..."

  4. Oh, I'm so sorry, Jen. And yes, you sure deserve off as much time as anyone else! Hugs.

  5. I'm sorry you're feeling low and lonely. I will be thinking of you. And you certainly do deserve time off!

  6. Hi Jen,
    i can feel with you. I have that loneliness feelings overcoming me on Christmas every year at Christmas time. It's a time remembering you about what you don't have... or at least don't have yet i guess. My thoughts are with you. You deserve some time off... so just enjoy this time during Christmas. It is suggested to be celebrated in a certain way but in fact it's just time you can do what you want to do. If your loneliness is overwhelming you talk to someone. If you don't have someone address them to a professional. I talk to a coach from time to time and cheer me up on wise sites (can recommend Your24hCoach), through quotes similar like the one posted by Optimistic Existentialist.
    Don't let you down. Enjoy each moment! Merry Christmas!

  7. If you feel lonely, you might enjoy the following article. I found "Isolation and Loneliness" very eye-opening from a psychological perspective.


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