Wednesday, September 12, 2012


Dad got Mom’s death certificate today to send to his retirement board to get all of his pension now that Mom is gone. He was very upset that the cause of death was listed as “Parkinson's”. We had several doctors say that Mom did not have Parkinson's.

He asked me if we should go after the nursing home if they were treating her Parkinson's and not dementia. I had to talk him down. I said that she was not any special Parkinson's medication. She was taking Abilify but that was more because she was convinced that my Dad was cheating with the nurses and she was getting physical with it. I tried to tell Dad that she was terminally ill either way and nothing would have helped.

We still have not received the autopsy report so I called the hospital to follow up. Hopefully I will get an answer tomorrow.

Other than that, I have not really been feeling good. My back has been killing me. It is not only my lower back but the pain goes around to my lower abdomen area as well. It hurts when I sit and when I stand up. It is awkward moving at first, but then I am feeling better. I am not sure what is going on. If it does not get better, I will go to the doctors. The front pain is the one concerning me. I haven’t been feeling well in general. Something is messed up.

I am looking forward to this weekend. I am possibly going to the Big E (Eastern States Exposition), the only state fair type fair around, that I am aware of. I am looking forward to that. The weekend can’t come soon enough.


  1. How upsetting that must be to read the death certificate and see something surprising. I hope all the paperwork gets settled soon.

    I hope you will be feeling better soon, too. Pain like that is worrisome. Take care of yourself! And have fun at the fair. Friday's coming!

  2. Oh, I'm sorry your dad was so upset by the death certificate, Jen. Although, I think it is an upsetting thing. Your mom mattered and her death was not just a statistic on a piece of paper. You'd think that organizations could at least get that part right.

    I do hope you feel better soon.

  3. Back pain is terrible. Hope it's better for you soon.

    It's awful that the certificate made your Dad so upset. Trying to explain that the outcome would have been the same must have been hard. Wishing you strength xx


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