Thursday, January 12, 2012

It Will Not Solve Me

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I read an article on Psych Central’s Weightless blog called Why Weight-loss & Diet Commercials Are Dangerous that I just had to talk about tonight.

I totally agree with it 100% and I will tell you why.

I have been overweight most of my life. I was always told by supposedly well-meaning people that life would be so much better when I lost weight. That if I lost weight it was the BEST THING I COULD DO FOR MYSELF.

More important than having a family?

More important than being loved?

More important than winning an Oscar?

I had thought once that losing the weight would make things perfect. It would get rid of my depression. It would solve everything! I would be happy and someone would love me and I would live happily ever after.

It did not happen that way as almost 4 years of blogging about depression have shown me. In some ways it made me feel worse about myself. I never lived up to my high expectations of myself and shamed myself at my “lack of self control”.

Being at a healthy weight would be good for me health wise but I am so much more then what a commercial would tell would tell me that I should feel about the process of losing weight. I am not going to be Janet Jackson when I lose weight.

I want to be known as a good person. I want to be known as smart, funny, friendly, anything but pointing out my faults.

I am going to lose my weight the healthy way. I am going to take care of myself because I deserve it. It will not cure Mom. It will not cure my deep issues.

My life is not going to be perfect or solve my problems when I lose weight. I wish advertisers would just stop trying to make me think that I only need weight loss to save me.

My life is more than weight-loss and being fat.

3 comments:

  1. Amen! Great post. Your wrote very well about an issue that affects so many of us. You are right. Losing weight and being thin will not make any of us happier. The commercials for the weight-loss industry don't focus on health as much as "happiness."
    There was a good story on "ABC News" this evening about the differences in weight between average women and super models. It's amazing the role models we're putting out there for our young girls.

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  2. Fantastic post Jen!!

    The only thing that changes when you lose weight is the size of your body. But that wouldn't sell a weight loss program or books.

    The best thing you can do is look after yourself now:)

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  3. Great post!

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