Saturday, October 22, 2011

Yes, I did.

You are all probably wondering, did I go out with the Algerian? Yes, I did, last night. I was wavering on the staying home or going out and he called after work and we decided to grab dinner. Being a tad wishy washy, I had no clue what I wanted so we went into Chinatown.

The T was running will long delays so we had lots of time to chat on the train about the usual stuff, work, family, hobbies, etc. He seemed nice and was somewhat easy to talk to. I did most of the question asking. When we got off the train, we walked around a bit and found ourselves at Shabu Zen in Chinatown. There was a wait so we did most of the talking. I asked about Algeria, where he had travelled, etc.

Shabu was a first experience for me. I had been to Chinese hot pot restaurant and of course the wonderful pho. I will have to try another time when I am more at ease.

When we were called to go into the restaurant, we went into the bathroom to wash his hands. I thought nothing of that. Once the food came he went again to wash his hands. Then during and after the meal, he also washed his hands. I thought that was a bit weird. He said I should wash my hands. Ugh. I had to go to the ladies room but my hands were fine.

I have my problems. I tried my hardest to hide them and make a decent first impression. I got dressed up, put make up on, smiled, laughed, talked a bit much. I did not want to come across as a depressed downer of a gal. I did not mention Mom and some of the other issues. This hand washing thing bothered me a bit, even more so that he wanted me to wash my hands as well. I am not some disgusting barbarian. I had showered before and wash my hands as appropriate. Maybe I am being a little too nit picky but it bothered me. 

The rest of the date went as expected. He tried to get me back to his apartment. I wanted none of that at this point. He was nice but I am not sure if I want to go out with him again.


  1. How long has he been in the states for? Do you think it might be a cultural thing?

  2. Sounds like he's germophobic! I'm slightly guilty myself-I always have to wash my hands after I touch the menus at restaurants and I have antibacterial sanitizer with me at all times. But washing your hands 4 times during dinner? Bizarre.

  3. That does sound like a bit OCD. And as lame as it sounds, I'm proud of you for going. Dating is not an easy thing to do! So I think its amazing you went and at least tried.

  4. All that hand washing sounds exhausting!! Not sure I would want to navigate that type of thing forever either but it's good you went out and gave it a go.

  5. I don't think you are being nit-picky at all! I would definately be annoyed by all his hand-washing. And, I'd be insulted by his suggestion that I wash my own hands, as if he thinks I'm dirty or something.

    But glad to hear you got dressed-up and went out! Go girl!

  6. I get why it might have been annoying but you should know that in Algeria, it is a cultural custom to wash your hands that regularly when you are having a meal. Part of this is because they tend to eat most foods with their hands, but partly it's just an observance of their culture and faith.

    Glad to hear you went out and had the chance to get all gussied up!

  7. I would definitely be bothered by him telling me to wash my hands. I think being understanding of cultural differences has to go both ways.


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