Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Support Wednesdays: Ending the Blame Game

Do you blame your parents?

Say, “You did this to me!”

I can’t do that to my parents anymore. I did blame them. I blamed them for not getting me help when I locked myself in my room for 5 years after school. I blamed them for making me feel like I could not talk about the sexual harassment in elementary school. I blamed Mom for not caring about me. Then I stopped.

There comes a point in my life that I have to take responsibility and pull up my big girl britches and move on.

Now, my Dad is really into the blame game. Blaming himself for not seeing things. If only he had gotten Mom help. If only he had pushed harder. If only….

Well, the past is the past. There is nothing my father or I can do to change it. I have spent far too much of my life reviewing events in my head that I could do nothing about.

It is time to live for today, time to think about the future and put an end to the blame game.

Don’t you think so?


  1. Absoulutely! I was just having this conversation with someone yesterday. We can spend our entire lives blaming others, but that does not get us anywhere. Itt certainly does not help us move forward and improve our own lives. Great post!


  2. Yes-yes-yes! Today is what's important. Even tomorrow shouldn't be the focus, because tomorrow will always come. It's what we do today that defines who we are. Yesterday happened, it's done. A big, big hug to you.

  3. Agree (1000)

    I totally struggle with this, I work really hard to be action oriented - i.e. Who cares who caused this - let's do what needs to be done to fix/change it and get past it.

    Blame and regret - you can't hold on to them without carrying negative energy forward, and that doesn't help anyone, least of all you!


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