Friday, October 8, 2010

Jen is

too independent. I heard that yet again today. I hate it. Why do people think it is a bad thing?

As a single thirty something woman, if I don’t take care of myself, who will? I live on my own. I hold a job. I travel with or without people. I would survive if I never find another boyfriend and be fine about it.

Why do people think being independent is such a bad thing? I can’t and don’t want to live with my parents. At almost 37, those days are long behind me. Besides if I had a boyfriend, going home to my parents house would be a drag.  I am as close (too close according to some people) as I want to be for my own sanity.

I can’t sit twiddling my thumbs until someone comes along. When someone comes along, I don’t want another father and or an overseer. One father is all I can handle. I don’t want to be attached at the hip nor disappear as so many women do when they are with someone.

I just want to be me. I don’t want to be changed and I don’t want to change someone. I am tired of pretending to be someone I am not and then I can’t live up to that person. Independence definitely fits my political philosophy.

Why do people feel the need to tell me these things?

I want someone in my life but I don’t want them to dominate my life and take over. It’s a partnership not a prison.


  1. Nothing wrong with being independent. I used to hear that a lot and still do even though I'm married.
    Parents want me to be a stay-at-home wife and want my hubby to support me.
    Not going to happen!
    Take care of you first and do what makes you happy.
    You don't need a bf/hubby for that!

    *Stopping by from SITS Tribe

  2. I think it's amazing that you're independent. Perhaps some of those who criticize you do so because they envy the fact that you are a self-sufficient woman.

    I know that many times I've felt that way. There are times I wish I could go back and change myself so I don't feel dependent on others.

    Stopping by from the Donkey Tribe

  3. Independence is a wonderful trait! I've been told I'm almost too independent as well, and my mom says it's just proof that she did a good job and I can survive when she's not there to take care of me. So, congrats on being able to take care of yourself! It's a great attitude, and I think we have more fun that way :)


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