Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Happy Birthday Mom!

Mom turned 61 today. We took her out to the Abington Ale House for dinner. Before dinner, she returned to my parent's apartment for the first time since she went into the nursing home. Dad was worried about how she would react to being in the apartment but it went fine. There was a bit of squabbling between my Dad and Melinda during dinner but it went well over all. Mom didn't do much talking. She concentrates on eating and that is all. Plus, with her aphasia, it is difficult to get her to talk sometimes. I bought her a new pair of pants for her birthday. When I saw her lay down on the bed to button her jeans and the indentations in her stomach from it, I said, I must get her more pants. She has been having a lot of accidents and the laundry department can't keep up with it. She tried on her pants and the fit. There were no "they are loose" complaints from her tonight. They looked comfortable. Front Temporal Dementia is a horrible disease. It robs people so young. It robbed me and my family of time with the old Mom. Her personality changed and she went from a person with life to one without it. It changed her face, her personality, the paranoia all progressed after time. 61 is far too young.


  1. Glad you had a nice dinner, Jen. I'm trying to make each holiday we have as good as I can. My mom is 65 and has FLD for 18 months...and her birthday's coming up. Best to you all.

  2. Thanks, I agree about the holidays.

    Mom was diagnosed with dementia in 2002 and was a medical mystery for a while. She doesn't follow the disease progression as the doctors thought she should.

    Her behavior was always FLD behavior from the start. She has been in a nursing home for 6 months.

  3. Glad you had a good time. It may not be like "old times" but it'll still be a precious memory for life.


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