Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Facebook Relationship Status

So my father, like many many other Baby Boomers, has discovered Facebook. His relationship status went from Married to It's complicated. I'll admit the situation is a bit complicated. He was taking care of Mom. Mom goes into nursing home. What is the next step in life? At 61, he should not be thinking of is. I just did not want to read it. I made a comment of GAH! Dad is afraid of making me mad on Facebook so I got a phone call later that day. The conversation began like: "I only want to be able to talk to people. People won't talk to me if it says married." I wasn't sure what to say. I understand that having a wife with dementia is not easy and I don't think that he would ever do anything. I know he is lonely and trying to get out a bit more since he does not have to be with Mom all day. He still goes to visit her everyday. I just was not ready for it. It was not something I wanted to see on Facebook.


  1. Sounds like he's just lonely. Give him some slack and you may see him shine.

  2. Wow, that must have been totally weird and uncomfortable to see! I couldn't imagine it. Even understanding where your dad is coming from, it's understandably hurtful to see him not claim his marriage publicly. Have you directed him to MeetUp that might have a group focused around spouses going thru what he is? I'm sure there are support groups out there too to help him get out and socialize.

    But yeah, not what you needed to see, I totally get where you're coming from on that.


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